AMY-LEE FARR - FOUNDER MBAU
Welcome to It Stops With Me, the show that is not afraid to talk about the challenging topics relating to Domestic Violence. Your host, Amy-Lee Farr, will talk about the forgotten victims of DV.
I'll discuss the ins and outs of prevention, and wow, this is a big topic. We'll only scratch the surface today, but at least we will start the conversation.
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Links Mentioned in the show:
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Youtube non-affiliated link for a guided free children's meditation for healing https://youtu.be/TFkR7CjVd9U
www.nctsn.org - The National Child Traumatic Stress Network Factsheet from today's show
https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/domestic-violence/about/effects-of-dv-on-children
https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/domviolence/impact/children-youth/
https://aifs.gov.au/cfca/publications/domestic-violence-form-child-abuse-identification
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1 in 4 children is exposed to domestic violence.
(Australian Domestic and Family Violence Clearinghouse 2011, The Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: A Literature Review)
1 in 3 women Will experience DV between the age of 15 to 65. Of those women who experience domestic and family violence, more than 50% have children in their care.
Domestic and family violence was the most commonly reported issue to the Department of Communities and Justice (DCJ) for children at risk of significant harm in 2010, with more than 20,000 reports received.
Domestic and family violence is also the leading cause of homelessness for children in Australia.
The impact of domestic and family violence on children is immense and can often affect them for the rest of their lives.
Children and young people don't have to see the violence to be affected by it.
Studies have shown an overlap between violence towards women and violence towards children of at least 40 per cent (Straus, Gelles and Steinmetz 1980; Hughes 1988).
Some children who witness domestic violence are also victims of abusive behaviour. A large number of children are physically, sexually abused in violent homes. Sixty-eight per cent of the women surveyed in a recent study said their children had suffered at the hands of the perpetrator.
Of these, 68 per cent reported their children physically abused, 70 per cent reported emotional abuse, and 8 per cent reported sexual abuse. Research in the United States has also shown that the rate of child abuse and neglect of children in violent homes is fifteen times greater than the national average (Peled and Davis 1992).
In a New Zealand study, Church (1984) stated that half of the children surveyed had to be protected by their mother during the confrontation.
I’m reading from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network Factsheet - www.nctsn.org.
Studies show that living with domestic violence can cause physical and emotional harm to children and young people in the following ways:
Sometimes being exposed to domestic and family violence isn’t just a matter of witnessing it. Children and young people are often physically hurt during violent episodes, either accidentally or deliberately.
Children and young people need to grow up in a secure and nurturing environment. Domestic or family violence exists, the home is unsafe or closed, and children are scared about what might happen to them and the people they love.
Effects of violence on children by age:
Procedures to raise awareness of the effects on children who witness domestic violence victims are necessary to lessen the long-term harmful effects. The National Strategy for the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect, developed for the National Child Protection Council (Calvert 1993), is specifically concerned with changing attitudes, beliefs and behaviours.
In the first instance, this involves primary prevention programs such as community education campaigns involving the use of the mass media, education through the publication of information packages, pamphlets and videos, and school programs for children.
Another school program, called Preventing Abuse in Relationships (PAIR), is targeted at adolescents, and its main objectives are:
A program similar to the PAIR program would also benefit older primary school children who are at a stage in their cognitive development to confront the issues of violence in their own families and could be built into existing personal safety programs.
Children between the ages of 8 and 12 are at a stage when intervention could be successful before the impact of violent role modelling has become entrenched in their behavioural and social-learning processes.
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Next week, we'll continue to help you understand domestic violence; the topic is post-separation abuse. Helping you to understand how DV doesn’t always start or stop once you have left the relationship! Be sure to catch that episode; it’s going to be a doozie!
Amy-Lee Farr is the founder of It Stops With Me. When she’s not serving her clients, she geeks out on photography, mindfulness, and challenging her friends to top her awesome karaoke skills. (What skills? lol) She calls Queensland, Australia home.
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